Leaving an abusive relationship does not always mean the cycle of abuse comes to an end. Many people experience post separation abuse from their former partners. Here are some ideas to keep you as safe as possible.
Mobile Phone
If possible, change your number. Screen calls with an answering machine
Don’t answer calls from numbers you don’t know. Save all messages that are threatening or which violate a domestic violence order.
Admin
Open accounts (banking, social welfare payments, household etc..) in your name only if possible.
Vary your daily routine
Change your commute to work and don’t visit the same bank or shop too often.
Meeting in public
If you have to meet your ex-partner for access (a visit with the children), try to do it in a public place, ideally somewhere where there are cameras, like a supermarket car park.
Children
Prepare your children so they know what to do if someone comes to the house or to school looking for you (or them). Let their teachers know that you are the only one authorised to pick up your children from school.
IF YOU CAN, GET OUT!
Talk to us about creating a safety plan for your particular situation. Keep in touch and we can help you udpate it as circumstances change.
YOUR SAFETY IS OUR FIRST PRIORITY.